Dear Negative Ego

I attended a 2-day seminar over the weekend and the participants were compiling a name list of all participants in order to network and keep in touch. A lady volunteered to type out the email addresses and she came up to a few of us and mentioned that she will be compiling the list. And we thanked her for her kindness.

The following day, I saw in the washroom and she reminded me to put my name down and that she was person who was going to type and compile the list. I overheard her saying the same thing to other people. An hour later, an announcement was made to participants to be reminded to write down our names by the facilitators. And the same lady stood up and said, And I will be the person who will be typing it.

You negative ego wanted me to laugh at her. You said that she was hungry for validation and that she is using this as a way to boost her self esteem and get attention, I said I know what I have observed but you wanted me to take one step towards your direction to judge her by attempting to introduce feelings of contempt towards her. But I simply smiled to myself and said to my friend next to me, "this lady has repeated many times that she will be typing the list". I made the statement matter of factly and as an observation without any negative feelings attached to deflect your attempts negative ego to move me into judgment and contempt.

Negative ego subtle as you may get at times, I will not let you get to me!

Dear Negative Ego [victim consciousness]

I found out that one of my friends did something that was not in integrity. I do not want to judge him however his actions indirectly affects me. And this gave you the negative ego the opportunity to jump in to make me feel like a victim of his actions and the situation.

I refused to give in to you to feel like a victim. But you negative ego kept on trying to make me feel uncomfortable to the point of wanting to avoid this person and not wanting to have anything to do with this person.

I am not going to give in to this desire to 'hide', if I plan not to have anything to do with this person anymore, I will do it from a position of power from a position of establishing clear boundaries and not victimization. Negative ego, you can go away. I do not need your help in this. It is not my desire to work with you and I will have compassion for my friend for I perceive that he is blind to his actions and consequences.